Silence in the Sheets? Making Noise in Bed
Alright, gents. We need to talk.
Because lately, my group chats and girl’s nights have been echoing with one common complaint - and I mean echoing, quite literally, because the men in question are SILENT.
Dead. Quiet. Church-mouse energy.
Over the weekend, an 18-year-old friend of mine vented that the guy she recently slept with didn’t make a single sound. And I had to laugh - not because it’s funny (okay, it kind of is) - but because at 36, I’ve been there too. And it’s not just her. I’ve spoken to women in their 20s, 30s and 40s who are all wondering the same thing:
Why are so many men afraid to make a little noise in the bedroom?
Let me be clear: we don’t need an opera. We’re not asking for you to fake it. But for the love of sex-positive communication, please make a sound. A moan, a groan, a whisper of approval, even a deep breath that tells us you're alive and enjoying yourself would be greatly appreciated.
Because here’s the thing - sex is a two-way street. And when one person is silent, it can feel… weird. Uncomfortable. Like you’re doing a solo performance and not sure if the audience has left the building.
Moaning is hot!
Telling your partner what feels good is hot. Breathing heavy because you’re turned on? Very hot. You know what’s not hot? Lying there like a frozen lasagna.
Sex is about connection, expression, and - shock horror - enjoyment. And while society has done a decent job of encouraging women to be more vocal, vulnerable and expressive in bed, the same can’t always be said for men. Some have been taught to be stoic. To internalise. To suffer in silence - except no one’s suffering! It’s sex! Say something!
Here’s what your moans, groans and little affirmations actually do:
They reassure your partner that you’re enjoying it
They guide your partner towards what you like
They deepen intimacy (yes, even during casual sex!)
And honestly… they turn us the hell on
So fellas, this is your permission slip
MAKE SOME NOISE. Tell us it feels good. Let a moan slip out. You’ll be amazed what that kind of feedback can do to turn the heat up.
Because in the words of every woman I’ve spoken to this month: “I’m not trying to hook up with a mime.”
Disclaimer: The content on this account is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as professional advice. Every individual’s journey of self-love, sensuality and intimacy is unique. Always prioritise consent, respect personal boundaries and engage in practices that align with your comfort, values and well-being.